Here are my seven steps, with some of the key points that can help you, too, to turn your life around on your own terms:
When I tried to be who everyone expected to me, I experienced depression and poor health and energy. When I started allowing the real me and what I really longed for to matter, everything changed. Even just honoring who you are in the smallest of ways starts to make a huge difference.
STEP 2: LEARN TO LOVE YOUR SELF
This may sound cliché or corny, but being genuinely kind to ourselves and nurturing ourselves in ways that serve our real goals and dreams is something so few of us do. Instead, we immerse ourselves in or indulge in addictions and patterns that make us feel good or give a high in the short-term (think overeating, overspending, alcohol, relationship drama, etc.) that do nothing more than distract us from the best things in life.
STEP 3: HONOR YOUR BODY
In many cases, rather than handing you a prescription to fix what ails you, I’ve found it more helpful to encourage you to learn to listen to your body and what it might be telling you about your life. I also don’t believe in diets or fads – there’s a brilliantly simple way of eating and choosing foods that gives you sustained energy, boosts your mood and can actually turn back the aging clock. It’s about enjoying a healthy lifestyle that works for YOU.
STEP 4: RESCUE AND REVITALIZE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
For years I chased the perfect romantic relationship, sure that once I found Mr. Right I’d live the rest of my life in bliss. Ha! Mr. Right (or rather, a series of them) taught me lessons about myself and life that in the end really did give me a shot at happily ever after.
STEP 5: GET A LIFE
My life used to be about trying to survive my workweek. When I learned to play again, took creative risks, got rid of the personal, physical and financial clutter, and figured out the activities and attitudes that had the biggest positive payback, I started looking forward to the future instead of wondering how I’d get through it. It’s easier than you think!
STEP 6: MAKE ROOM FOR THE DIVINE
Studies show that spiritual and religious practices have an astounding impact on our physical and mental health. Learning fundamental spiritual truths and living by them will positively transform your entire experience on this planet.
STEP 7: MAKE SOMEDAY TODAY
Forget about the great life you’re going to find time for, or start, someday in the future. You’ll be floored by the things that happen when you take even the smallest steps towards meaningful changes in your life – and you’ll wish you’d started sooner. It’s never too late, you’re never too old, and life will always surprise you with rewards greater than you ever dreamed if you just take action.